HOW TO HAVE INTENSELY HOT PHONE SEX – 4 IMPORTANT RULES
Having great phone #sex is about painting a vivid and intense picture for your partner (and vice-versa). Once you can successfully do that, your man is going to be putty in your hands.
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Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship, or you just want to spice things up, this detailed guide that you’re reading is going to show you exactly how to have intense and passionate phone sex with your man, even if you’re a complete beginner.
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INTRODUCING PHONE SEX TO YOUR MAN
If you are full of confidence, then you don’t need to worry about bringing up phone sex with your man, it will come naturally. But if you are like most women, then you may have a few reservations. Here’s a foolproof strategy to smoothly bring it up with him.
I Miss Your Voice – The next time you are talking to your man about intimate things, either in person or over the phone, tell him how much you miss his voice…especially hearing his moans and sighs during sex. Then, while thinking out loud say something like this, “I wish I could just have a recording of your voice, so that I can listen to it when you’re not here. Just hearing you in pleasure would be so hot when I’m trying to pleasure myself.”
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It’s a pretty reasonable wish or desire to have, and most guys will agree with you. Perhaps he’ll suggest that you record audio of yourselves during sex, or maybe he’ll even suggest recording audio of himself while he masturbates.
This is a great start.
What Would Be Better – Once you start down this path, you then need to guide your man towards the phone. Let him know that hearing his voice is great, but that the idea of hearing the same recording over and over might get boring. Ask him what he thinks a better alternative would be than a recording of him.
At this stage, most guys will suggest phone sex, thinking it’s their idea! If not, simply let him know how hot it would be to hear his voice while he is masturbating.
Make It Easy For Him – If your man hesitates, just let him know that you don’t even need him say anything, you just want to hear his voice, his breathing and his moaning while he masturbates. What man could say “no” to this?
Then from here, you can amp things up and take your phone sex game to the next level using the techniques below…
SETTING UP PHONE SEX FOR MORE SATISFACTION
If you rarely get to see your man, then phone sex may become your only way of being intimate with each other. This means that you should do everything possible to make it a special occasion and exciting. Here’s a few tips to do just that:
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Privacy – Unless you’re an exhibitionist, then the more private a place you can be in for phone sex, the better. It will help you to relax and feel less inhibited, especially if you have just started learning how to have phone sex with your man. So lock your door, close the blinds and turn on a little music if you need to drown out any noise!
What Makes You Feel Sexy – Before you even get on the phone to your man, you need to take care of yourself, so that you feel as sexy and attractive and comfortable as possible. Everyone has their own preferences for feeling more comfortable and sexy, but here’s a few ideas…
Take a nice long bath beforehand.
Get dolled up (lingerie, make up, hair, etc.)
Have a glass of wine or two to help relax.
Light candles/incense.
Have a sex #toy(s) ready.
Pre-Game Orgasm? – Again this comes down to personal preferences. If having an orgasm before you even get on the phone helps you to relax and get ready for talking to your man, then do it. If not, then save it for your man. These 10 masturbation techniques will help you have powerful orgasms.
STEP-BY-STEP PHONE SEX SCENARIOS
The easiest way to have phone sex is to think about the scenarios, NOT the specific lines. If you are trying to remember 23 specific lines to say to your man (which you can get here and here), then it’s going to take a lot of thinking and brain power. This is a recipe for disaster. You’re going to spend so much time trying to remember what to say or do, that you’ll completely take yourself out of the moment
But when you are only trying to think of a scenario, everything becomes a lot easier. You’ll find that you have to think less and that you can just go with the flow. Keep this in mind as we go through a few phone sex scenarios you should try with you man. Of course, this doesn’t mean you can’t have a few lines pre-prepared, like one of the 64 dirty phrases you’ll find here.
ALL ABOUT YOU
The easiest way to have phone sex is to simply describe what you’re doing to get yourself to orgasm (here’s 9 clitoral stimulation techniques to push you over the edge). This scenario is pretty straightforward. Start off by describing where you are and what you’re wearing. Here are a few examples:
I’m in my room with the lights real low.
I’m wearing those silky panties you got me for our anniversary.
I’m on top of the covers and have my vibrator beside me. I’m not sure if I should use it yet.
Then move on to what you’re doing to turn yourself on.
I’m just caressing my breasts and can feel my nipples getting harder and harder. – Learn how to have nipple orgasms here.
I’m slowly moving my fingers down towards my panties.
I’m gently tracing my fingers on my thigh and I can feel myself getting so wet for you.
I can even feel how wet I am through my panties.
Before telling him about how you are getting yourself off
I’m going to start slow on my clit.
I’m sticking my fingers inside to feel how wet I am. Here are 5 super-satisfying ways to finger yourself.
It feels so good.
Now I’m turning on the vibrator.
I can feel myself getting closer baby.
I’m going to cum for you.
This is just the beginning. You can elaborate massively on these phone sex examples above, especially when you start using some of these 64 extra dirty examples. And don’t forget, if you’re feeling nervous or apprehensive about describing what you’re doing, then you can always just let your man listen to your breathing and moaning as you get yourself off.
ALL ABOUT HIM
Another simple phone sex scenario is for your husband to describe how he’s getting himself off. If he’s nervous he doesn’t need to say anything, and you can simply listen to his breathing and groaning. Once he does it a few times, his confidence will have built up and he’ll find it easier to start describing what he’s doing.
IN YOUR HEAD
The next step is describing what is going through your head as you masturbate and touch yourself for your man.
Domination – Perhaps you’re thinking about him dominating you? You can start describing how he is pinning you down, pushing your hands over your head and spreading your legs with his. You can tell him how he is completely overpowering you and no matter how much you struggle against him, you can’t stop him from entering you. You can find more tips on being submissive for your man in this guide. Although if you want to dominate him, then you’ll be interested in this domination guide.
Cowgirl – Or maybe you’re on top of him, riding him in the cowgirl position. You can describe how you’re grinding on top of him, bringing him closer and closer to orgasm while you can feel a wave of orgasmic pleasure coming over your body.
Oral Sensation – You can even describe a blow job you’re giving him while he mimics your description with his hands on the other end of the phone. You can talk about how you’re softly running your fingers up and down his cock and balls to tease him. Then you start focusing on the tip of his penis with your tongue, before taking him a little deeper.
As you’re working him up to orgasm, you can then start describe how you are deep throating him (read the deep throating tutorial here), before allowing him to finish on your body or face. If you want learn the best oral sex techniques to use on your man when you are together, then you may want to read the Blow Job Guide.
Your Fantasy – The 3 scenarios above are just examples. Naturally you will have your own, so make sure to work them in too. Great phone sex is not just about one or two dynamite “lines,” although you can learn plenty from the Bad Girl’s Bible like these 91 dirty lines to say to you guy. As I said at the start, it’s about being able to paint a vivid picture for your man (and vice-versa), so he can clearly imagine the situation.
Now that you know how to have phone sex, there are just a few more guidelines to give you, before you unleash your sexy voice and imagination on your man…
4 FINAL TIPS FOR KEEPING PHONE SEX RED HOT
If you’ve read this far, you’ll have a great grasp of how to have great phone sex with your man. These final four tips are the icing on the cake and will take you from a phone sex diva to a phone sex pro.
1. To Schedule It Or Not – If you and your man are busy, then scheduling phone dates makes perfect sense. This is especially true if you want to take time to get ready and in the mood. However, from time to time, impromptu phone sex can be hot too. My advice is to try both and focus on what works best for both of you.
2. Slow, Seductive & Sultry Voice – In Chapter 2 of the Dirty Talking Guide, I talk at length about how talking dirty is mostly about your voice tone, the speed you talk at and the context. I discuss how the actual dirty talking phrases you use aren’t nearly as important as HOW you say them.
This is crucial when having phone sex with your man. It’s going to be a million times more effective and sexy when you speak slowly and seductively. Cracking jokes or talking really fast is not a turn on when you are trying to have phone sex with your man. It ruins the mood.
3. You’re Not Working In A Call Center – What I mean by this is that you need to be enthusiastic about phone sex. When you get a call from a call center, the voice on the other line is usually boring, uninterested, unenthusiastic and FAKE. This is because the person calling you doesn’t care AND they are just reading a script. This kind of attitude DESTROYS phone sex.
You need to focus on making sure you are enthusiastic and genuinely listening to him. If you are just reading a script, it’s not going to sound genuine AND you are not going to be able to get feedback from your man . A few prepared lines can help (and the Dirty Talking Guide has plenty of examples), but an entire script from start to finish that you prepared earlier is inevitably going to sound fake. It also makes it harder to improvise.
Choosing a scenario is a much better way to approach phone sex. It gives you a rough idea of what to say and allows you the flexibility to take it wherever you want it to go.
4. It’s Ok To Be Awkward! – When you’re learning how to have good phone sex with your man, you’ll need to get out of your comfort zone and sometimes this can get a bit awkward. Don’t worry; this is just part of the process.
If you let a little bit of awkwardness prevent you from continuing, then you’re going to miss out on a lot of fun in the long term. So my advice is just to continue. In time, the awkwardness will pass and be replaced by hot, steamy phone sex
The final thing to say on having phone sex with your man is that you are not restricted to only using your phone. Skype, FaceTime, Viber, Google Hangouts and all the other voice calling and VOIP apps out there make for perfect alternatives.
If you are looking for more great tips, techniques and help on learning how to have phone sex with your man, then I highly suggest that you take a moment to watch the dirty talking tutorial video. It will show you the most important techniques (and the most powerful examples) to use on your man when talking dirty to build sexual tension, turn him on and keep him attracted. Click here to watch it now.
